Taharat hamishpacha and mikveh are often spoken about in the language of closeness, renewal, and anticipation. When you are going through challenges in your marriage (and/or considering divorce), those same practices can feel heavy, confusing, lonely, or even painful. The halachot themselves do not change, but the emotional landscape around them absolutely does.

A few suggestions how to deal with common relationship crises

The hardship of feeling raped, but unable to express it

A story of wanting a new relationship with the mikveh after divorce.

Contemporary prayers written for use at the mikvah.

In Judaism there is a way out of marriage when one feels that his soul is dying a slow tormented death within the relationship.